In betweens are the worst kind of place one would want to be stuck in. You could arguably say perhaps that you would rather be in a gray area than stuck in an abyss. In the spectrum of colors, black is well, the black sheep of the family. It is resigned to absorb all frequencies of lights and with no light at the end of the tunnel. Other than firms who rationally would like to be in the black, no one wants to be black-marked.
Yet, it is the dissatisfaction and inertia of being in between two stages that in my opinion makes it the worst position to be in. For in the throes of hardship, there emerges two categories of people; those who resign to their dreadful fate, or cling onto hope with blind faith. The futility of trying to outmaneuver an inexorable destiny brings acceptance, while hope, however thin, brings optimism. Acceptance and optimism are emotional states that one would much rather possess than constantly being trapped by mediocrity.
It’s like a friend whom you can’t quite open yourself up to, though you hang out all the time because of circumstances. It would be inappropriate to classify someone like that as a close friend, wouldn’t it? That would make him/her an in-between friend, which makes it even worse than an acquaintance, whom you couldn’t care less about. The obligation to maintain a level of cordiality would wear one down. It is precisely these claustrophobic in-between relationships which we form, where the desire to be liberated stems.
It’s like a partner with who you possess excellent chemistry but whom you simultaneously harbor nagging doubts about. It’s like the ex-boyfriend whom you are still cuffed to but still can’t quite get out of your life. Or it could even be the guy that you have been sleeping with whom you find yourself slowly falling for. Some say choice liberates people, but the very freedom to choose one’s destiny is the reason why many are stuck in a rut. At least during a mid-life crisis, while one contemplates the passing of youth, and imminence of old age, there aren’t decisions to be made, as the only way forward is seniority.
Like a GPA that is higher than a second lower but falls short of a second upper, in betweens to me, are the worst kind of place one would want to be stuck in. Are you an in between?
